As I think I have mentioned before we live in a predominantly Japanese/ Taiwanese/Korean area of Shanghai, with our own Japanese Department Store, Takashimaya, above our metro station and with a number of smaller shops and restaurants in the area selling country specific food. We can easily buy Korean kimchi at a number of corner shops around here, sushi elsewhere, and probably, although I’ve not sought it out, Taiwanese Bubble Tea. We can eat Japanese bar food, or go to one of several Korean or Japanese Barbecue restaurants all within easy walking distance.
Also within easy walking distance is one of a number of North Korean Pyongyang Restaurants in Shanghai. Ours, PingRang GaoLi Restaurant as been a lure ever since we moved into our apartment, as early in the evening ladies in over-the-top traditional Korean dress stand at the ground floor entrance trying to entice customers into the place, whilst never actually leaving its threshold. I have been a couple of times, once with a friend of my daughter’s who is currently teaching English at a school in Seoul, South Korea and last week with a group of people from the UK’s Pret à Manger business who have a couple of stores here in Shanghai.
If you go early enough in the evening – we are talking 6pm here – these ladies will show you upstairs to the
second floor (1st floor in UK speak) restaurant and to a whole surreal experience that mixes average quality Korean food with a Butlin’s-style performance – the waitresses themselves become the performers at 7pm, once they have served the food and made a quick change.
The food was generally unremarkable – you don’t go to the place for the food, more for the experience.

At 7pm a number of the waitress disappear and change into a mixture of traditional Korean costumes and western-style velvet dresses and sing North Korean popular songs, and perform a number of acts including what looked like Irish dancing with some of the girls playing bass guitar, keyboard and a set of drums.
Towards the end of the show unsuspecting customers have plastic flower garlands placed on their heads which marks them out later on for being collected up into a North Korean version of the conga whilst the singers sing a song to their Great Leader.
The first time I went, was with James (and his brother Peter who had met up with him to tour China) which made the whole experience particularly interesting for me. James, speaking some Korean, was able to talk to and translate for the waitresses. He was careful to use North Korean terminology all the time that he was speaking to them, one in particular kept coming back to talk and they were particularly chatty with him. They liked the fact that we came from England but would not engage in anything about themselves or what they thought of Shanghai, or even Gubei Lu.
All was going swimmingly until two issues disrupted things. First of all they do not like their customers taking photos, or videos. For James this was a shame as he was using a video camera to document his China trip for his English students back home in Korea and I, as you know, like to document everything that I have done since arriving in Shanghai. They could tolerate us taking photos of the food, but whenever a camera was pointed at a waitress someone hovering behind always said “No photos. No Photos” over our shoulders. We did what we could and managed to capture pictures of some of the waitresses, even whilst they were performing, but it was

That No Photo Moment
difficult. They could tolerate pictures of customers up on the stage after the performance, but not during it. Why does a North Korean restaurant not want you to take any pictures of any of the staff? What have they got to hide? It was interesting that to the outside world the whole place was run completely run by women. There was not a man in sight, not at the front desk, not serving, not performing. There was no male front of house at all. Which is odd from a devoutly Confucian country – one that espouses the importance of a male heir – so they must be somewhere behind the scenes, pulling the strings.
The second issue was that during one of his conversations with the waitress towards the end of our meal James let slip that he lived in Seoul. Everything changed after that. The waitresses clammed up and kept their distance. Westerners were fine to chat to, especially if they speak Korean. Ones that lived south of Korea’s DMZ (Demilitarised Zone), definitely not.
These restaurants across Asia are run by the North Korean government, to earn foreign currency. The waitresses have a fixed smile on their faces and tend to all have similar features. It has been reported that those that work in any one of these restaurants do not know of, or know very little of, other restaurants in the same chain, even if they are in Shanghai. The women reportedly all come from strong party families from the capital Pyongyang, where for example there is electricity at night, so having it available here in Shanghai in the evenings would not cause too many questions, and as they all come from good North Korean families the possibility of defection or challenging the system is low. In addition their social circle is apparently confined to those who also work in their restaurant.
No photos, fixed smiles, lack of openness, fear of Seoul connections, cloned look…….It all had the feeling of a North Korean version of The Stepford Wives.
Not long after Rozy arrived in Shanghai we went together as a family, along with a work-colleague of Richard’s, Lucinda and Jenny her visiting daughter, to an evening session at the Chinese Cooking Workshop to learn to make La Mien hand-pulled noodles. (Literally, lā, (拉) means to pull or stretch, while miàn (simplified: 面/traditional: 麵) means noodle)
The noodles, once pulled, are immediately added to the broth and heated through for a 7 to 8 seconds and then served, together with 30g of sliced beef, 50g chopped coriander and 5g of finely diced garlic and a fried egg.
But in all cases the women are using their hands to steady the pole to look after their precious cargo.
On 25th August this year I went with the Shanghai Expats Association to the Ancient Shoes Museum. I had wanted to go ever since I had found out about the existence of this museum in Shanghai, as I had come across some tiny shoes at an Auction in the UK many years back and had been fascinated not only be the exquisite embroidery on the silk, but also by the size of them. But as the owner of the museum Yang Shao Rong only speaks Shanghainese and no Mandarin, you have to go along to the museum with a local interpreter. Jung Chang in Wild Swans: Three Daughters of China had written about her grandmother’s lotus feet and many others have written in novels and other books about the process of foot binding, so I was surprised how shocked some of the other women were on the visit. Sometimes we just don’t realise how well we in Britain are informed.
tied to a wooden stand with the feet sticking part way through the two holes in the stand and smacked with a stick (red one on right of stand) by either the girl’s mother or grandmother. It was not optional. The toes were then bound in place under the foot’s sole. Any woman with bound feet walked over her broken toes every step she took on her Lotus Feet for the rest of her life. The ideal length was 3 Chinese inches long – “3” golden lotus”, the equivalent of 4″ or 10 cms shoes. (They were not called shoes).



than shoes in the cold winters and also Northern shoes had the tips pointing down, southerners the tips pointing up.
















by the Accuquilt company blogger, who seemed to be going round the world visiting her friends and searching out quilt groups to 












an on-line magazine headline as home to “The biggest single bunch of eccentrics in Europe”. Celebrating a Century of SOAS’. She was so at home in that academic environment that she decided to carry on her academic studies beyond her BA and try and get a Masters Degree in Chinese.
I’d like a Korean meal please. So off we went to our local Korean BBQ restaurant for our first meal together in Shanghai. Then what would she like to do? I thought she might like to go and see the best that Shanghai had to offer – The Bund, the Shanghai Museum, you know, the typical sort of things that new visitors and residents like to go and do. I’d like to go and find a good book shop. So off we went to the best bookstore I know in Shanghai the 8 storey book store on the Fuyou Road, and others along the same street. And we amused ourselves for quite a while trying to find just the right sort of Chinese novel that she will be reading as part of her degree this year. Most of the novels she found were more in the Mills and Book category I understand, but she did manage to come away with quite a handful in the end. Books are much cheaper in China than they are in the UK, and books in Chinese doubly so.
Since leaving us in July, she went onto travel around East Asia calling in at Hong Kong, Taiwan, South Korea and Japan before returning for an overnight stopover in Shanghai on her way to Oxford University to begin her MLitt studies, where she seems to be settling in fairly well.
continued to watch its progress around the cafe furniture. A Japanese girl sitting at the next door table reacted to it as if it were a spider, screaming a little, jumping from her chair and retreating well away. She was very grateful when Richard ushered it on its way towards the cafe next door. I’d never seen a 螳螂 (tángláng) or praying mantis in the flesh before, though of course I’d seen them on the BBC wildlife programmes. About 4″ long, I was fascinated by its huge eyes and its rocking movements. I assume that that helps its compound eyes to see.







































